The Holidays After the Affair

Updated: Sep 20, 2019

They had an affair. You feel like life has stopped and yet the days just keep passing by. Valentine's Day, the 4th of July, Thanksgiving, New Years... they bring up memories, the good ole days. Discovering an affair is a major event you have to mourn and navigating your grief, depression, anger... is difficult on any regular Tuesday.

I remember just sobbing my face off sitting on my closet floor on the 4th of July. What? It's not like the 4th was a big deal. Don't get me wrong, I love America, but in our family we just grilled hot dogs and lit sparklers. My first 4th alone without my family was unbearable. For me, it was the fact that we were supposed to be together, that's what a family does. We eat hot dogs, sweat outside and try not to burn anyone's eye out playing with sparklers. But there I sat, sobbing, and so utterly alone.

The holidays represent togetherness and the passage of time. We build memories together. So, how can we celebrate that togetherness where there is none? I feel like the holidays have a tendency to magnify the loss we are mourning. The loss of trust, love, security, family...

Our need for support is going to increase during these times. So, don't be afraid to reach out to a friend or family member for help. You will get through this, we all deal with our feelings in different ways. Allow time for your feelings. If you have a 3 hour cry in ya, don't stop at 2 hours. Let that mess out! This is part of the healing process. Did you hear me? Grief is part of your healing. Feeling the pain can actually make you feel better in the long run.

Do you struggle with any of these issues?

✔️Terrifying Anxiety

✔️Uncontrollable Fear

✔️Racing and Obsessive Thoughts

✔️Painful Flashbacks

✔️Unhealthy Boundaries

✔️Utter Loneliness 

✔️Lack of Healing

✔️PTSD from their Affair

✔️Crippling Depression

✔️Seemingly Never-Ending Grief

Don't worry, you DO have the strength to heal from this!

Our recommendation? Find meaningful guidance, community with others going through the same trauma, and healing!

We know how hard it is to heal after being cheated on and believe that no one deserves to live a broken life. 

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  • Weekly healing exercises to guide you through your pain

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