Self-Care After an Affair is Discovered

Updated: Sep 20, 2019

You just found out about their affair. You know the feeling... your stomach falls into your feet somehow, your palms sweaty, the world around you blurs away.



What is wrong with me? What did I do wrong? Why was I not enough? These are the questions that consume us after we discover an affair. There is a common theme to these questions, we are questioning our worth. I did it too. What's worse is that we go from questioning our worth to believing that we are, in fact, no good enough. Oh hell no, not on my watch!



Here is why self-care is so important. You see, self-care is when you choose to protect and preserve your own happiness. What happens to us is not always in our control, if it was no one would have a cheating partner, right? Self-care actually fights against our thoughts that question our worth. As we choose to care for ourselves after the affair, we slowly start to see that maybe we will be okay. Maybe we do have worth. Before you know it, you will know just how valuable you are and look back at this gut-wrenching experience and be crazy proud of who you are and just how strong you are.



Self-care refers to caring for yourself physically and emotionally. When you are in the thick of grieving (which is what you are doing after an affair, grieving a massive loss) keep it simple. Just pick a few things, like setting a sleep schedule. Force yourself to do a short walk outside, just 10 minutes. Eat. As you start to get the basics down you can start making time for yourself to rediscover old hobbies, read a book, laugh til you cry with your friends. Self-care is important to surviving an affair wether you stay in the relationship or leave. This is about YOU being a whole, happy person once again.

"You owe yourself the love you so freely give to others"

Do you struggle with any of these issues?

✔️Terrifying Anxiety

✔️Uncontrollable Fear

✔️Racing and Obsessive Thoughts

✔️Painful Flashbacks

✔️Unhealthy Boundaries

✔️Utter Loneliness 

✔️Lack of Healing

✔️PTSD from their Affair

✔️Crippling Depression

✔️Seemingly Never-Ending Grief

Don't worry, you DO have the strength to heal from this!

Our recommendation? Find meaningful guidance, community with others going through the same trauma, and healing!

We know how hard it is to heal after being cheated on and believe that no one deserves to live a broken life. 

With After the Affair you receive access to:

  • An affair recovery video session once a week for 8 weeks, guiding you through the healing process required after their affair.

  • Watch sessions around your schedule and as often as you would like.

  • Weekly healing exercises to guide you through your pain

  • You receive unlimited access to our amazing support group on Facebook


Begin your path towards healing and becoming stronger, braver and more whole than ever before!


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