How Long Will it Take to Heal from the Affair?

Updated: Sep 20, 2019

The first three months after discovering an affair are generally the worst. Everyone's situation is different, of course. I remember actually feeling jealous of people who were smiling. I felt as if I would never again be physically capable of smiling again.

I sat in a window once watching a woman play outside with her son, she had the biggest smile and you could feel the joy just oozing out of her. I felt like I was watching a warm and fuzzy Hallmark movie in slow motion. (I'm a creeper like that!) I sat there sobbing, certain I would never feel that way again.

Most experts say it takes about two years to heal from an affair. It took me about two and a half years, but I do still have scars I carry with me today. One day I realized that I hadn't thought about the affair once all day, no obsessive thoughts, no triggers, nothing. I gave myself a high five and kept pushing forward.

Two years seems like an eternity when you are in the thick of it, but it does start to get better as time goes on. The more you begin to connect with yourself, grieve, learn and grow the easier it becomes. I promise. Remember that we are all different: our childhoods, family, partners, health, culture... all play a big role in our healing. Be patient with yourself and take this time to learn who you are as a person and see what you need to become the best you.

Do you struggle with any of these issues?

✔️Terrifying Anxiety

✔️Uncontrollable Fear

✔️Racing and Obsessive Thoughts

✔️Painful Flashbacks

✔️Unhealthy Boundaries

✔️Utter Loneliness 

✔️Lack of Healing

✔️PTSD from their Affair

✔️Crippling Depression

✔️Seemingly Never-Ending Grief

Don't worry, you DO have the strength to heal from this!

Our recommendation? Find meaningful guidance, community with others going through the same trauma, and healing!

We know how hard it is to heal after being cheated on and believe that no one deserves to live a broken life. 

With After the Affair you receive access to:

  • An affair recovery video session once a week for 8 weeks, guiding you through the healing process required after their affair.

  • Watch sessions around your schedule and as often as you would like.

  • Weekly healing exercises to guide you through your pain

  • You receive unlimited access to our amazing support group on Facebook

Begin your path towards healing and becoming stronger, braver and more whole than ever before!

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